One thing that takes most guys a long time to learn, if they ever learn it at all, is how to go about sleeping with lots of women. We all have that one buddy who just seems to have been born with some type of voodoo womanizing abilities. It’s frustrating watching them work because it almost seems effortless. But that’s the thing! It is effortless for him!
The guys who do the best with women aren’t “trying” to do well with women. They “just do it”. The mentality needed to make this happen can’t really be taught in a flash. It takes life experience and trial-and-error. However, even by doing something as simple as reading this article, you’ve made a dent in that quest.
Perhaps the most important thing I wish I knew when I was a helpless virgin struggling to get laid is that women don’t want a guy who is really into them, they want a guy who is really into himself. I know that sounds kind of odd, but it’s completely true. Of course, they don’t want a guy who is totally self-absorbed and stares at himself in the mirror all day, but they do want a guy who is very secure and confident about who he is as a person. Women love the stability that comes from being around someone like that.
Put Your Needs First
First thing is first, if you’re trying to get with a girl, don’t make her the center of all the attention. Always agreeing with her or constantly complimenting her is going to kill your chances of hooking up with her. Disagree with her. Poke fun at her. Tell her you think she might be crazy. Of course, do this all in a playful, flirtatious manner, but make sure you convey that you’re the man and that she should feel lucky to get the chance to spend time with you.
How to Fake It Until You Make It
It actually takes quite a bit of practice to transition from whipped pussy to playa. While you’re still working out the kinks, a good way to “fake it until you make it” is to reference yourself and your opinions a lot in conversation. Even making completely arbitrary statements like “I never was a big fan of Arby’s, their sandwiches are too bready if you ask me,” demonstrates value and an ability to think for yourself. Women like that. No girl wants a guy who worships her existence and builds her up onto this huge pedestal. It’s boorish and depressing. In addition to that, it places unfair expectations on them to live up to all the talk you’ve said about them.